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Mike is a pastor, community leader, workshop facilitator, and coach.  He is passionate about growing his own spiritual, emotional, and relational maturity, while helping others explore ways to do the same. Mike is invested in serving organizations that desire to foster spiritual, emotional, and relational maturity for their members.

In addition to planting a church and revitalizing an established congregation, Mike has served as the chaplain in a local county jail where he had a front-row seat to the hard work of deep change.  Mike also designed and led a leadership development process for jail chaplains across the state of Michigan. Mike is currently serving a congregation on St. Croix of the United States Virgin Islands.  He holds a Doctor of Ministry degree from Fuller Theological Seminary with a focus on the history and practice of Christian spirituality.

Mike’s work is particularly focused on growing maturity by applying the insights of living systems theory.  He has studied Bowen Family Systems Theory at a postgraduate level, taught and written about it, and has used Bowen Family Systems Theory as a lens for his own marriage, parenting, pastoral leadership and coaching for over 15 years.

Married to Tammy and the father of three grown children, Mike enjoys any activity associated with water – especially swimming, sailing, and scuba diving.

    “I enjoyed working with Mike as I served a church as Associate Pastor. Coaching helped me stay connected to my core principles and helped to keep me differentiated from my work.

    I highly recommend 1-on-1 coaching like this to any ministry leader who likes to “think systems.” I always came away from coaching with a few take-away bullet points to think about until our next session.

    Mike’s coaching helped me as I led the congregation through all of the high-anxiety adaptive change that the COVID-19 pandemic brought on.”

    Sara Hill

    Associate Pastor – First Presbyterian Church

    Fort Dodge, IA

    I am pleased to endorse Mike De Ruyter as a coach! I have had several coaches and mentors over the years. Mike is truly at the very top.

    Every session I’ve had with him has been rich and deeply helpful. He engages in each conversation without distraction, and he does so with great wisdom and skill, bringing so much understanding about family systems and emotional intelligence into our sessions.

    Each time I feel that he invites me to set the path in the conversation. And each time he also skillfully asks questions based on what I have said that open up welcome directions I had not anticipated.

    There have been so many “huh” and “aha” moments! For me, sessions with Mike have been important occasions for learning, both about professional matters and also (perhaps even more) about myself.

    Moreover, the learning feels cumulative: each session is building on the other, with recent sessions providing insights dependent on the work done in earlier sessions.

    If you need a coach who will help you navigate complex social interactions in family and work, in a way that leans into growth in personal intelligence, Mike De Ruyter would be an excellent choice.

    Daniel Griswold, Ph. D., M. Div.

    Coordinator and Stated Clerk Holland Classis, RCA

    Serving in a global ministry presents unique complexities and challenges that present opportunities for learning and growth. Mike DeRuyter has helped me on my leader’s journey since early 2022 in three primary ways. Mike is a brother in Christ who can relate to what I am going through. He challenges and encourages me to see and make meaning of my own spiritual formation. His professional training in systems theory helps me grow as a missional leader as part of a larger organization.

    First, Mike has wisdom and insight from ministry in a variety of settings that provides encouragement and confidence that he understands me. He lives out the principles of gospel grace and justice in our coaching conversations. He calmly listens and clarifies by asking great questions. He focuses on what God is doing and what I am learning rather than on his experience or himself.

    Secondly, he helps me think deeply about the meaning of circumstances and relationships to consider how I might respond. And lastly, his training in systems theory provides a vocabulary of what it means to be a differentiated leader. His coaching has helped me lead with creative tension to learn from past failures and lean into deep truths with courage.

    I would recommend Mike DeRuyter to anyone who desires to better understand spiritual formation, missional leadership, or develop guiding principles that generate and sustain creative tension needed in any organization or ministry to make a positive difference.

    Nate Thoreson

    Director of Men’s and Regional Directors

    Bible Study Fellowship

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